30 Minute Spaghetti-Expanded Explanation
by Susan Fox, CH
In helping a client achieve goals, we remember that the left brain easily will dominate the right brain in most right-handed people. So, the perceptions of the right brain will easily be influenced until the right brain quadrants understand how to think ASSERTIVELY instead of ONLY aggressive and passively. Each person is BORN preferring to think using a "default" sequence of the 4 brain quadrant thoughtware programs.
This means that according to YOUR customized brain design, you have hardwired into your DNA from birth, the desire to think predominantly in a particular brain pattern starting with say, the lower left first, then up to the upper right, then to the upper left and then back down to the lower right IS the way you are designed to think. The percentages vary as to your "default" thinking pattern within each quadrant. AND, you PREDOMINANTLY use this default pattern. That means that sometimes you think using a different sequencing pattern. Since we ARE able to sometimes think in a different pattern other than just our predominant brain pattern.
In this extended explanation of this particular Hypnotic Brain Talk Story, I will dissect this story so you can identify from which quadrant a person is thinking and speaking. This explanation is kind of like using the "reveal codes" tool in Microsoft Word.? The value in this identification process is so that you can know exactly which phrases to say to this client to help him/her alter his/her perception to achieve his/her desired goal for which he/she cam to see you - self-acceptance, self-approval, self-love, self-reliance, self-empowerment, etc.. Developing these skills, the client can see how to eliminate thinking in anxious, worried, fearful, self-absorbed, self-limiting ways. So, remember, this next step is ONLY to show you and identify the dialog coming from which quadrant. There will be a further expanded explanation where I will show you what each section means in specific client issues such as weight loss issues, allergies, cancer, whatever. The PROCESS is all the same.
30-Minute Spaghetti Story Explained
The sun sank slowly in the west and my sixteen-year-old body ached after a long horse ride. I sighed in relief as we stopped riding for the day. While we set up our camp, our stomachs grumbled at us to feed them. (mainly creative, descriptive, upper right dialog)
Before we left the Girl Scout camp, Shadow Rim Ranch in Payson, Arizona, each girl made her own sandwich for lunch. We planned a filling dinner. And in order to eat, we would need to work together. (mainly creative, details from a combination of the lower left [get the job done by planning and organizing the details] and upper left [analyze and select which details apply] dialog)
As a counselor-in-training, I was learning a lot. Our unit leader approached me calling me by my camp name. "Flebus, will you supervise the girls cooking our dinner?" (mainly relationship-oriented [welfare of others] lower right AND [get the job done inspirational benevolence leading] from lower left dialog)
"Sure," I replied. Then the girls and I walked over to the place where we stored our supplies. We brought the food over to the cooking area. (mainly relationship-oriented [welfare of others] lower right AND [get the job done inspirational benevolence leading] from lower left dialog)
I turned the food bags over a couple of times looking for printed cooking instructions. (mainly lower left [get the job done] and upper left [analyze the details of the situation] upper left dialog) But, there were none. (mainly lower left [get the job done] and upper left [analyze the details of the situation] upper left dialog) I had seen my mom cook spaghetti in the past, but she usually shoed us out of the kitchen while she cooked. (mainly details for perfect clarity upper left dialog) Get where I'm going with this? (mainly details for perfect clarity upper left dialog with a blend of the lower left (seeking to briefly provide info to get the job done.)
We opened the dehydrated pasta sauce bag (sounds yummy doesn't it?) and the spaghetti bag. (mainly upper right creative storytelling dialog) Time to remember the past memory of mom cooking spaghetti. (mainly upper right creative storytelling AND lower right relationship-oriented dialog) I pictured her boiling water and then putting in spaghetti. (mainly upper right creative storytelling dialog) So, I told the girls we needed to build a fire and boil water for the spaghetti. (mainly lower left get the job done dialog) Off we went to gather wood. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail dialog)
Sometime later, with fire ablaze, we soaped the outside of the pot and set it on the fire to boil. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail dialog) With the water bubbling from the heat, one girl said, "Flebus, how long should we let the water boil?" (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of [need a mentor to decide what to do] lower left dialog)
I said, "Hmmm.... " (mainly upper left analyzing the details with a blend of lower left organizing the details to get the job done dialog) I then thought back to what I remembered about mom cooking spaghetti. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of [need a mentor to decide what to do] lower left dialog) As a kid, it seemed to take about an hour to me. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of [need a mentor to decide what to do] lower left dialog) Then I thought to myself, "I was just a little kid... I think about half of that should be right.' (mainly upper right creative FAULTY LOGIC storytelling with a blend of FAULTY LOGIC upper left explicit detail with a blend of FAULTY LOGIC [need a mentor to decide what to do] lower left dialog)? "Well, I guess we should let it boil for about 30 minutes. We'll let it sit and come back then." I finished brightly. (mainly upper right creative FAULTY LOGIC storytelling with a blend of FAULTY LOGIC upper left explicit detail with a blend of FAULTY LOGIC [need a mentor to decide what to do] lower left dialog)
We kept our eye on the fire while we busied ourselves with additional meal-preparing activities. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of staying focused on getting the job done lower left dialog) The timer went off after 30 minutes. (mainly upper left analytical detail dialog) We went over to the spaghetti pot. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of staying focused on getting the job done lower left dialog) One of the girls put a long handled wooden spoon into the pot expecting to bring back up limp spaghetti strands. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit detail with a blend of staying focused on getting the job done lower left dialog) Much to our surprise she brought up spaghetti clumps. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left explicit THEORETICAL [non-judgmental] detail dialog) We looked at each other. (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) The girls alternated between staring at me and the pasta lumps in the pot. (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) "Ooh." "Blech." and other disapproving sounds graced the air. (mainly upper right creative storytelling with a blend of upper left vague detail [vagueness is used to "run away" from admitting imperfection] with a blend of competitive insulting to "motivate" to get the job done from lower left dialog)
The unit leader looked up from her camp chair and then walked over to the fire where we stood. (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) "What's going on. Dinner almost ready?" (mainly lower left get the job done dialog) Then she looked down at the pot. (mainly upper left analytical reporting) "What is that?" (mainly upper left analysis and reporting on findings)
"Spaghetti." I said with a blank look on my face. (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) The girls hungrily looked on (probably hoping we had more spaghetti somewhere.) (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
The unit leader silently looked at me for a moment. (mainly upper left, unemotional detail reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) Then she said, "Do you know how to cook?" (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical, non-judgmental THEORIZING detail, done in the form of a question reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
"No." (mainly brief, succinct, to-the-point lower left, get the job done dialog)
"Why didn't you tell me that?" (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical, non-judgmental THEORIZING detail, done in the form of a question reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
"Why didn't you ASK me that?" (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical, non-judgmental THEORIZING detail, done in the form of a question reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
The unit leader sighed. (mainly brief, succinct, to-the-point lower left, get the job done with a blend of upper left, unemotional fact reporting dialog) "Do you know how to tend to fires and safely cut and collect wood?" (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical, non-judgmental THEORIZING detail, done in the form of a question reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
"Sure!" I answered happily. (mainly lower right "I can please you with this answer/attitude" dialog)
The unit leader called to a nearby counselor, Gremlin. (mainly upper right storytelling dialog) "From now on, Fleeb, will supervise fires and firewood collection and Gremlin will supervise cooking." (mainly brief, succinct, to-the-point lower left, get the job done with a blend of upper left, unemotional fact reporting dialog)
"Ok." answered Gremlin. (mainly brief, succinct, to-the-point lower left, get the job done dialog)
The unit leader turned back to me and said, "Sound good to you?" (mainly brief, succinct, to-the-point lower left, get the job done with a blend of lower right "this relationship is important so consider her feelings when making this decision, too" dialog)
"Sounds great!" I answered with relief. (mainly upper right storytelling dialog - relieved to still look intelligent, significant and valuable before the group)
The unit leader turned and walked back to her camp chair. (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical, non-judgmental THEORIZING detail, done in the form of a question reporting with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog) She just shook her head. (mainly upper left, unemotional, analytical detail, with a slight blend of upper right storytelling dialog)
If you are interested in an oatmeal style spaghetti recipe, I have one I'd be willing to share with you.... (mainly upper right storytelling dialog)
(C) 2007 Susan Fox Trust
Susan Fox
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